Finding ones way back! Renewed and refreshed.



It has been several months since I have posted on my blog. So much has happened that I would have to write a novel to explain it all. I have had my heart-broken for I have lost a son, not to the grim reaper but to unfortunate circumstances. I have been subjected to three more surgeries, watched my husband’s health suffer, moved to another town, turned sixty-nine years old and celebrated fifty years married. The last three events should have been happy, joyful and memorable experiences but because of the first heartbreaking events they were not. I know I am not the only mother who has suffered this painful, gut wrenching and devastating loss but it sure felt like I was the only one at the time.  

Our other children, grandchildren and family did their best to see we had an anniversary to add to our memory bank and we love them for that. But our hearts would not allow us to rejoice the way we deserved.

It is time I take God’s hand and ask Him to help guide me though a time of healing. I know I cannot do this alone and was not strong enough to ask for His help before now. I am ready and I can see there is a light at the end of what seemed like a very dark  tunnel into the unknown. I pray for my son who someday may find his way back to his family.

So I am writing this post today, and tomorrow I will get back to writing the sequel to my book “A Hairdresser’s Diary”. I will take one day at a time and cherish each of those days. As far as my Anniversary, Ron and I will be married fifty years for a whole year, and will have lots of time to celebrate the way we imagined we would.

Thank you all my friends for your past support and I can only hope you will keep visiting me once again.

Second Place Winning Story

 I was pleasantly surprised this morning when I went to check on my LinkedIn messages and found that I had won second prize in this contest. I wanted to share it with you all this morning. I know Christmas is over but what is one last memory. Thank you all especially Ronnie Dauber who is the founder of this amazing group.

Second Place Winning Story – Why Christmas is Special to Me – by Chris Hannon  / contest run by Ronnie Dauber, author

When my children were growing up we did not have much, but no mater how little we had we taught our children to share. So one Christmas when our oldest was only five, we had an idea, one that evolved into a tradition. I will explain, first of all we never hid the gifts from our kids. As soon as we bought them, they were wrapped and then put under the tree. We would pack them tightly so far under the tree that it was almost impossible for anyone to see how many there really were. Snooping was a no-no and would be a sure fired way of making all those Christmas gifts disappear. An artificial tree made it simple to hide the presents, as I could pull the branches lower to the ground to cover them. What we didn’t do was put names on the ones from Santa until Christmas Eve while the children were asleep. I marked each with a symbol for identification purposes. It was not unheard of that I would get them confused. One year the kids got several of the wrong gifts. It was funny but the kids reminded me every year after.

Two days before Christmas, we would sit with our children in front of the tree and pointed out which gifts were for them. We asked them to please choose one of their already wrapped gifts to give to another child. This would be given anonymously and be for someone who had less than they did. Without hesitation, they unselfishly chose and proudly delivered their choices to one of the many places desperately needing gifts. Not once in all the years that we carried on this tradition, did our kids question what was in those presents they gave away.

Our children are now grown and married and have their own children. While visiting yesterday my seven-year-old grandson ran up to me all excited. Chattering he said,” Papa, Grammies I just spent my Tooth Fairy money and my allowance on two presents for other kids who need presents too. Grammies, some kids don’t have mommies and daddies like me. I need to help right Grammies, right Papa?”
I gave him the biggest hug I could without squishing him. “Right, Ronnie.” I was so very proud of this sweet little boy.

He then looked at me and said,” Grammies this is my tramdition.”
Smiling I dare not correct him and tell him the word was tradition. I just said. “Do you know that Daddy, Uncle Terry and Aunty Chris used to have a tradition to give gifts too?”

“I know Grammies that is how daddy taught me to be for sharing.”
I looked at my son who was beaming with pride. He said, “Mom, this is the third year that Ronnie has used his own money. It is usually his birthday money and allowance. We stopped paying when he started being paid to help do chores. Not only does he pay he picks the presents out himself. The first year we had to put in a bit but now he can read the prices.” Giving his son a hug he continued, “We still have to watch for sales but he is good at that too.”

“Ronnie, are you going to teach your kids to carry on this tradition like daddy taught you?” Papa asked.

“Oh Papa, you are so silly I don’t have any kids I am only a little boy!” With that, he marched off shaking his head leaving us grown ups laughing and feeling ever so proud. This is why Christmas is so special to me.

Gossip, secrets and trust


A couple younger hairdressers that I know had a couple of comments to make about what they read in my book. One of the comments had to do with gossip,secrets and trust in the salon. They both said they decided to pay more attention when they went to work. They wanted to see if what I wrote about and what was happening now was even close to comparison.

Taking into consideration we live in a small town and the hustle and bustle of the big city where I worked will make a slight difference. Natalie said the four days she paid attention she noticed that the older clientelle was more like the clients I wrote about, while the younger ones were more like one timers.

They both found that the biggest tipers were men. The walk ins left the lesser amounts. Unlike the noise in the salons with everyone sharing as in my book they both said the salons are very quiet almost like a library. I wondered how much does the hairdresser play in this? Maybe they are more reserved than I am. I do know the few customers I still have here at home share everything with me but I have been doing their hair for over 25 years.


They both agreed that customers old and new seem to want to share anything and everything in their lives. These two friends and hairdressers I know for sure hold what is told them sacred. They both thought my book should be and inspirational book read in all salons or hairdressing schools. Eye opening information for the newbie was Sandra’s thoughts.

All in all they both said that things have changed but not to a great extent.


How do you feel about your beauty experience? I would really like to know.

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